The Anatomy of Trust

I listened to "Oprah Super Soul Conversations:The Anatomy of Trust" from Dr. Brené Brown about 2 years ago and I still remember how strongly that hit me about trust. In that podcast, Dr. Brené Brown laid out crystal clear about trust when I was struggling with trust issues but I didn't know what exactly was wrong. It really helped me to pin point why I felt certain way.

I would like to recite some of those words that she mentioned in the podcast.

• “To choose not to connect when the opportunity is there is a moment of betrayal,”
• “Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else.” -Charles Feltman
• "Distrust is what I’ve shared with you that is important to me is not safe with you,” -Charles Feltman

BRAVING (Acronym): "When we trust, we are braving connection with someone."" -Brené Brown

• Boundaries: "There is no trust without boundaries."
• Reliability: "I can only trust you if you do what you say you're going to do" over and over again."
• Accountability: "I can only trust you if when you make a mistake, you're willing to own it, apologize for it and make amends. I can only trust you if when I make a mistake, I am allowed to own it, apologize and make amends."
• Vault: "Holding in confidence."
• Integrity: "Choosing courage over comfort, choosing what's right over what's fun, fast or easy, and practicing your values not just professing your values."
• Non-judgement: "We can fall apart and being in struggle and ask for help without being judged."
• Generosity: "Make a generous assumption and check it out."